Let me put it this way: individualism has promoted technological advance, technology promoted increased specialization, and specialization promoted an ever closer economic interdependence between specialties.
As the old order disintegrated into this confederation of narrow specialties, each pulling in the direction of its particular interest, the individual person tended to become absorbed literally by his particular function in society. Having sacrificed whol eness of mind and breadth of outlook to the demands of their specialties, individuals no longer responded to social stimuli as total human beings; rather they reacted in partial ways as members of an economic class or industry or profession whose concern was with some limited self-interest.
Thus this typical Western man, or typical Western husband, operates well in the realm of means, as the Romans did before him. But outside his specialty, in the realm of ends, he is apt to operate poorly or not at all. And this neglect of the cultivation o f more mature values can only mean that his life, and the life of the society he determines, will lack valid purpose, however busy and even profitable it may be.
And here's where you come in: to restore valid, meaningful purpose to life in your home; to beware of instinctive group reaction to the forces which play upon you and yours, to watch for and arrest the constant gravitational pulls to which we are all expo sed_your workaday husband especially_in our specialized, fragmented society, that tend to widen the breach between reason and emotion, between means and ends.
And let me also remind you that you will live, most of you, in an environment in which "facts," the data of the senses, are glorified, and values_judgments_are assigned inferior status as mere "matters of opinion." It is an environment in which art is often regarded as an adornment of civilization rather than a vital element of it, while philosophy is not only neglected but deemed faintly disreputable because "it never gets you anywhere." Even religion, you will find, command s a lot of earnest allegiance that is more verbal than real, more formal than felt.
You may be hitched to one of these creatures we call "Western man" and I think part of your job is to keep him Western, to keep him truly purposeful, to keep him whole. In short_while I have had very little experience as a wife or mother_I think one of the biggest jobs for many of you will be to frustrate the crushing and corrupting effects of specialization, to integrate means and ends, to develop that balanced tension of mind and spirit which can be properly called "integrity."
This assignment for you, as wives and mothers, has great advantages.
In the first place, it is home work_you can do it in the living-room with a baby in your lap or in the kitchen with a can opener in your hand. If you're really clever, maybe you can even practice your saving arts on that unsuspecting man while he's watchi ng television!
And, secondly, it is important work worthy of you, whoever you are, or your education, whatever it is, because we will defeat totalitarian, authoritarian ideas only by better ideas; we will frustrate the evils of vocational specialization only by the virt ues of intellectual generalization. Since Western rationalism and Eastern spiritualism met in Athens and that mighty creative fire broke out, collectivism in various forms has collided with individualism time and again. This twentieth- century collision, this "crisis" we are forever talking about, will be won at last not on the battlefield but in the head and heart.
So you see, I have some rather large notions about you and what you have to do to rescue us wretched slaves of specialization and group thinking from further shrinkage and contraction of mind and spirit. But you will have to be alert or you may get caught yourself_even in the kitchen or the nursery_by the steady pressures with which you will be surrounded....
Now I hope I have not painted too depressing a view of your future, for
the fact is that Western marriage and motherhood are yet another instance
of the emergence of individual freedom in our Western society. Their basis
is the recognition in women as wel l as men of the primacy of personality
and individuality. I have just returned from sub-Sahara Africa where the
illiteracy of the African mother is a formidable obstacle to the education
and advancement of her child and where polygamy and female labor are
still the dominant system.
The point is that whether we talk of Africa, Islam or Asia, women "never had it so good" as you do. And in spite of the difficulties of domesticity, you have a way to participate actively in the crisis in addition to keeping yourself and thos e about you straight on the difference between means and ends, mind and spirit, reason and emotion_not to mention keeping your man straight on the differences between Botticelli and Chianti....